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Wedding Gift Sparks Epic Text Battle: Is Marriage Etiquette Dead?

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"Kathy Mason and her boyfriend (who chose to remain anonymous) attended the wedding of two Canadian women, and things went afoul from there. Mason's boyfriend, who sent his story, along with a hostile text exchange with the brides, to the Spectator wrote the following: "As a gift, my Girlfriend and I gave them a wicker box with a hinged lid, filled with food items, most of them PC Black Label, including: tri-color pasta, salsas, Balsamic vinegar and Olive oil, Gourmet croutons, Panko Breading, Pesto, some baking ingredients, Biscuits from Godiva and a few 'Fun' items like Marshmallow Fluff, Sour Patch Kids and Butterscotch sauce…On the card we wrote 'Life is delicious....Enjoy.'"

The following day, he received, via text, what might be the least genuine thank-you note in history:

One of the two brides wrote: "Heyyy I just wanna say thanks for the gift but unfortunately I can't eat any of it lol I'm gluten intolerant. Do u maybe have a receipt[?]"

That was the first message, from one of the brides. The second, from the other bride, firmed up any question as to whether they felt the basket of candy and other goods made a suitable wedding gift.

"I'm not sure if it's the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding, people give envelopes," the bride/co-worker texted to the gift-givers. "I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate, and got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads up for the future "

And that was the last smiley face exchanged between the two parties. What follows is a text exchange that sums up the growing divide between wedding thrower and wedding guest. The gift givers claim, "To ask for a receipt is unfathomable, disrespectful, inconsiderate, immature, greedy," among other things. "Not only is it wrong to have an expectation of any sort of gift, it is the ultimate insult to your family and friends to mention a gift of monetary value at all."

The brides stand by their position, even allowing the Spectator to photograph the gift with the "fluffy whip" they call out via text, placed front and center. In her response, one of the brides claims the basket cost $30— a paltry amount, in her opinion, for two people, considering the $97-per-plate fee they spent on each guest for the reception. "Weddings are to make money for your future. Not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research. People haven't [given] gifts since like 50 years ago!"


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Post #1   6/24/13 1:48:52PM   

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Just fucked up people all around. Now granted that's a bad gift, but be happy with whatever you get.

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Post #2   6/24/13 1:53:13PM   

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"Weddings are to make money for your future."
Throwing an over priced massive party in your own honor is obviously a great way to make money!

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Post #3   6/24/13 2:46:36PM   

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Posted by airkerma

"Weddings are to make money for your future."
Throwing an over priced massive party in your own honor is obviously a great way to make money!



Exactly what I was thinking. well played.


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I gave $50 gift card to outback plus some registry gifts from target. Then enjoyed their wedding a few weeks ago.

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Post #5   6/24/13 3:46:58PM   

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first reply in the article nailed it

"So if I spend $500 for airfare and hotel to attend a wedding in which the couple spends $200 per person, does that mean instead of giving them a gift I should give them an invoice for $300?"

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Post #6   6/24/13 4:35:07PM   

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When I got married, we asked for monetary donations, but only optionaly, and gave the reason that we needed more money for a honeymoon. We only had 50 or so guests and we got the whole thing done for under 2K!

We got a bunch of money, but we werent expecting any, and if someone had given me a gift I thought was shitty (like champagne glasses with another couple's name engraved because the dude forgot and tried to hand on a gift from his own failed wedding!) I would never complain! Bitches man.

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I don't know about all this...weddings are just as outdated as one can get, but women like them...the Wife and I did ours on a Thursday at three at the J.O.P. For $50 with a pair of $50 rings...twelve years and three kids later we are still best friends.

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Other peoples kids

Like Shawn said...be happy with what you got. It reminds me of kids that open their Chtistmas gifts and get bent when its not what they wanted

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Awful behavior.

Anyone whose gotten married has gotten shitty gifts. That's life. You take it, say thanks, and either return it, give it away or throw it out.

You invite people to your wedding because you like them and want them there, not to get gifts and money. Hell, what couple would give you more than the $200 you paid for their attendance?

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I would have told those bitches to go Fuck them selves
Ungrateful assholes. Be thankful for a gift
Asking for a receipt is a insult.
Then saying how it cost them 200 bucks to feed them

I'm sorry but I would terminate the friendship

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Weddings are for you to celebrate your union with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And wedding guests are those whom you have chosen to share that special day as you are very fond of them. The guests should feel honoured but not indebted.

Those who think their wedding is about making money should not be getting married.

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It sounds like these people weren't even great friends as is, so I can't even fault the shitty gift givers. The behavior of the brides is pretty audacious to me, who has the balls to essentially say "you should have given us money." And I guess my knowledge of weddings is shite because I thought that home appliances/household items were always a suitable gift (not sour patch kids) and I'm surprised to know that I should be giving money or I should just fuck off.

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Posted by jay98107

It sounds like these people weren't even great friends as is, so I can't even fault the shitty gift givers. The behavior of the brides is pretty audacious to me, who has the balls to essentially say "you should have given us money." And I guess my knowledge of weddings is shite because I thought that home appliances/household items were always a suitable gift (not sour patch kids) and I'm surprised to know that I should be giving money or I should just fuck off.




Esentially money is all anyone "wants". The appliances and etc are more for the bridal shower or engagement party. But more and more these days the couple usually is living together already so the appliances, toasters things that were good gifts years ago, the couple usually already has.

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Exactly. When I got married last year, we'd already lived together for years, so we just asked for money to honeymoon with, rather than household stuff. We ended up getting household stuff anyways, but we certainly weren't dicks about it.

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