Posted by KungFuMaster
Posted by Aether
Right, it couldn't be that she's a 16 year old girl who fell on her ass in front of a global audience in the middle of the biggest moment of her life, losing herself a gold medal, and maybe she's feeling some kind of disappointment or sadness, that she let herself down, her teammates, her country, possibly even trying her best not to start crying on international television, she just has no sportsmanship. What a little snotty bitch, right? Grow up, little girl!
You really have the most insane, rigid ideas about how people "should" act. Maybe you should send her a copy of the KFM etiquette manual so that she doesn't let you down next time she happens to be in the middle of the most important and probably most devastating moment of her life.
I have my own standards as you have yours. I get the feeling you think I want to impose my standards on others. Sorry to burst your bubbles but that is not the case here. It is simply an opinionated stance I have taken and I'm sorry it has devastated you.
I am quite patriotic and I will criticize my own countrymen if they do not represent my country they way I feel they should. That's probably too radical for you to digest. Let's take it a notch or two down. I would ask you to assume McKayla Marone is your sister or daughter and see if your opinion would change a little - but that is probably too much to ask of you.
If McKayla Marone was my daughter, I would congratulate her on a job well done and tell her she has nothing to be disappointed about... I would proceed to tell her that I know it hurts to lose but she should be grateful for placing second on the biggest stage of competition. I would continue my lecture and teach her how to handle losses. I will advise her on what to do when she loses or wins- to congratulate the victor, and to congratulate the runner ups etc.
If I had to take a wild guess, I say you have never played sports in school before. I have played sports throughout grade school and there is one thing we are always required to do and that is give appreciation to the opposing team. My guess is McKayla has participated in a lot more competitions than I have and this specific "sportsmanship conduct" should be engrained in her bones. You defend her age and her innocence but I'm here to tell you - she has been taught the etiquette of competition all her life and when she lost the other day, her sportsmanship conduct fell short and if I was her father, I would have been disappointed in how she handled herself - and I would coach her better for future meets.
Just as I am about to conclude this post, I cannot help but think you do not have a strong sense of family. By your own admission, you are not negatively affected by McKala's conduct >>>which goes to show, if she was your sister or daughter, it wouldn't bother you one bit. That's quite sad and I hope you learn to love your family more.
I mean, you pretty much summed up my point for me. If she were your daughter you would take her to the side and lecture and criticize her. For what? Because she made a face you didn't like? She didn't do anything remotely disrespectful. You would take your daughter fresh off of the most devastating moment of her life, something she has no doubt invested thousands of hours into, and you would lecture her because of her facial expression in a picture. That says it all.
That is a really wild guess, and it's completely wrong. I've played many sports, mainly soccer, but more importantly, I've competed to be the best in the world at something, and lost in the last 7 seconds to come second place. I guarantee you have absolutely no clue what it's like to be the best in the world at anything, or what it's like to invest years of your life into it and then come so close and have it slip out of your grasp in, quite literally, the last seconds. It's devastating, and she'll live with the memory of that fall in the back of her mind for the rest of her life. She'll think about it when she goes to sleep, when she wakes up, it will pop into her head during the day, for her whole life. After a few years she might not think about it every single day, maybe just every other day.
So what, you played a game of basketball in highschool, and you think you know something about how she feels up there? Get real. You don't have a clue. I don't even understand, but I can amplify the disappointment I felt in letting a world championship slip through my fingers in something considerably less important and publicized than the olympic games, multiply that feeling by about a thousand, realize that she's a 16 year old girl, and get some kind of inkling of how absolutely devastated she must be, and the amount of composure and maturity it must have taken for her just to not burst into tears, and how deeply that fall will affect her for the rest of her life, because it's blatantly obvious you've never come close to a situation like this.
She's a 16 year old girl who just had her dreams shattered, and she didn't even do anything rude, she just has a sad look on her face. "You should be grateful for placing second" Heard it many times, it's exactly what someone who has never competed at anything says to a competitor to try to comfort them. A real competitor says something like "Damn, that must have hurt". A real competitor at the pinnacle of their field doesn't play for second place. You win or you lose, that's it, and coming second hurts far more than getting blown out at that level, because it's so close that you can taste it, you replay every second in your mind and think of all of the tiny little things that you could've done differently to turn silver into gold.
You trying to lecture her for looking sad is laughable. Spend a decade of your life with every waking moment dedicated towards one goal, come seconds away from achieving it, have it snatched out from under your nose, listen to some fool who couldn't possibly comprehend how that feels tell you you should be GRATEFUL for getting second place, proceed to lecture you on sportsmanship, and then come back and criticize this little girl for not having a giant smile on her face.
You fool.