divorce help

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

have her whacked problem solved

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Posted by thevoodooninja

have her whacked problem solved

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Meh, if killing her was the appropriate answer, I'd do it myself, for free...not that I've thought about that kind of stuff or anything.

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Posted by asterisk

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

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Get a better lawyer than her. You'd be amazed how often cases go towards the better lawyer despite the facts or outcome.

Also, if the violence is a continuing problem, make sure you are documenting it all with pictures, audio of screaming, and anytime it happens call the police and file charges. If your wife has a history of violence that is continuing and you can show that... it will be to your advantage.

Also, don't do anything that can be construed as negative. Don't fight back. Don't surf porn that she can recover your steps... basically be a model citizen.


All these things will help, but in the end... get a better lawyer than her.

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Posted by ncordless

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Posted by asterisk

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

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Get a better lawyer than her. You'd be amazed how often cases go towards the better lawyer despite the facts or outcome.

Also, if the violence is a continuing problem, make sure you are documenting it all with pictures, audio of screaming, and anytime it happens call the police and file charges. If your wife has a history of violence that is continuing and you can show that... it will be to your advantage.

Also, don't do anything that can be construed as negative. Don't fight back. Don't surf porn that she can recover your steps... basically be a model citizen.


All these things will help, but in the end... get a better lawyer than her.

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ye this guy has it my buddy just went through one and he runs his one company $$$$$, he said he'd rather pay the lawyer then her

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Posted by ncordless

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Posted by asterisk

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

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Get a better lawyer than her. You'd be amazed how often cases go towards the better lawyer despite the facts or outcome.

Also, if the violence is a continuing problem, make sure you are documenting it all with pictures, audio of screaming, and anytime it happens call the police and file charges. If your wife has a history of violence that is continuing and you can show that... it will be to your advantage.

Also, don't do anything that can be construed as negative. Don't fight back. Don't surf porn that she can recover your steps... basically be a model citizen.


All these things will help, but in the end... get a better lawyer than her.

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I agree with 99% of your post; however, and this is completely my fault, I believe calling the cops would be a pussy thing to do and would only make matters 1000 times worse. She's the type of c*nt that'd cut off pecker mid-dream

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Posted by asterisk

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Posted by ncordless

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Posted by asterisk

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

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Get a better lawyer than her. You'd be amazed how often cases go towards the better lawyer despite the facts or outcome.

Also, if the violence is a continuing problem, make sure you are documenting it all with pictures, audio of screaming, and anytime it happens call the police and file charges. If your wife has a history of violence that is continuing and you can show that... it will be to your advantage.

Also, don't do anything that can be construed as negative. Don't fight back. Don't surf porn that she can recover your steps... basically be a model citizen.


All these things will help, but in the end... get a better lawyer than her.

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I agree with 99% of your post; however, and this is completely my fault, I believe calling the cops would be a pussy thing to do and would only make matters 1000 times worse. She's the type of c*nt that'd cut off pecker mid-dream

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you can worry about being a pussy when you have your kid and your house...that is my opinion on that issue.

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Posted by jiujitsufreak74

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Posted by asterisk

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Posted by ncordless

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Posted by asterisk

Has anyone here gone through a divorce? If so, can anyone give me some pointers on how to start the divorce process? I have a 2 year old daughter that I'm afraid I will not get custody of, even though her mom has been on probation twice for being violent, which is the reason I want to leave her. She knows I'd never hit her, so she decides to always get violent with me, physically and verbally. Any help is greatly appreciated!

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Get a better lawyer than her. You'd be amazed how often cases go towards the better lawyer despite the facts or outcome.

Also, if the violence is a continuing problem, make sure you are documenting it all with pictures, audio of screaming, and anytime it happens call the police and file charges. If your wife has a history of violence that is continuing and you can show that... it will be to your advantage.

Also, don't do anything that can be construed as negative. Don't fight back. Don't surf porn that she can recover your steps... basically be a model citizen.


All these things will help, but in the end... get a better lawyer than her.

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I agree with 99% of your post; however, and this is completely my fault, I believe calling the cops would be a pussy thing to do and would only make matters 1000 times worse. She's the type of c*nt that'd cut off pecker mid-dream

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you can worry about being a pussy when you have your kid and your house...that is my opinion on that issue.

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Agreed, if you don't love your kids enough to be a pussy narc... then forget what I said and let them live with a violent mom.

I am not ever a person who says that you should get the law involved... but there are exceptions.

Purposely set her off then in the middle of it call the cops. Kepp egging her on as they are coming and when they show up play the "thank go you are here card". Next get a restraining order on her. Say you are terrified of her. Have your lawyer set up before this happens. Just my opinion. Good luck man

Take it from the Sopranos:

Get a consultation with all the best divorce lawyers in your area. Lay out your entire case to them. Then, when you file and she goes to get a lawyer, they can't the case! Conflict of interest since they know your side.

If for some reason they do take the case, any reasonable judge will remove them once it comes out you had a consultation.

I agree with some of the other guys too about building a case against her by calling the cops and getting her continued violence in the public record

Don't get a girlfriend until everything is sorted/finished.

keep trac of all the monies you have paid to her or for the kid. keep trac of all the time she is violent . the divorce part is easy its the parenting plan thats the hard part. cuz you will prob have to come to a agreement on it depending on the state. the judge dont want a bunch of he said she said bull shit. he or she will want solid and complete paperwork. most time if they think your wasting thier time , they will just throw you out tell you to come back when you can agree. good luck. oh and if you make her do something bye a certin time ( like sell a house) make sure you have a penalty if not completed bye the time set..