Posted by Pookie
My rationale comes from projection. If i was the person being abused, and i allowed it to happen for whatever reason, i would put the blame upon myself in a sense that i could've got this to stop earlier. I think Personal Responsibility is self-beneficial in this regard.
Pookie, my buddy, I know you are a smart guy but I also know you are young. No one here is bashing you for your opinion. I know it is very difficult to understand why someone would let terrible things happen to him or her without seeking retribution. You have many years of wisdom ahead of you and so do I but I have a few years on you.
I used to live in an apartment complex - next to a psychopath who had threatened to kill his wife on numerous occasions. People who abuse others put fear into them. They control the abuse's every action and many times it takes more than courage to leave the abuser. It takes intervention by families, friends, and or law enforcement officers to help the abuse.
I know it is easy to say you will simply not allow the abuse to persist and would seek help by reporting the incident but it is much more complicated than that and much more sensitive. The physical side of abuse - no matter how severe can heal most of the time. It is the mental side of abuse which traps many victims into believing there is nothing they can do to help the situation. Mind control is a powerful thing and once you achieve it, you are literally god and your subjects are literally slaves.
If a victim has been abused more than once, it usually means mind control has already taken place and the more abuse which follows, the more control the abuser has over his victim(s).
There is a saying in my culture - If you love your wife, she will cheat on you and leave you. If you beat her, she is forever yours.
It is a condescending and sarcastic prose but the psychology behind it makes it so true.