I might be getting bitter in my old age or I might just be having a bad week but what the fuck has happened to manners!?!?
I've always thought manners reflect what kind of person you are, someone with no manners is usually someone I hate, someone who has manners I usually think is alright. I also think manners reflect how you're brought up so if a kid says please and thank you his parents get a
I'm not talking table manners or the way you act with your friends I'm talking about simple things like thanking someone who holds a door.
I get that sometimes you're in a rush and don't have time to hold a door or run off without saying thank you to someone. A laps every now and then is fine, but recently its been grating against me how little respect or common courtesy people have for each other.
This week I've held the door for many people and I can honestly count on my fingers the amount that have said thank you. I've given up my seat on a busy train for an elderly man and had to ask people to move so he could get to the seat and been given the stink eye for doing it. This kind of stuff I'm used to and it usualy just washes over me without me giving it a second thought.
But today was the straw that broke the camels back.
I was on the late train home, the service only runs every 45 minutes and it was pretty quiet. I was sat listening to my music and noticed when the guy on the other seat stood up to leave. As he got to the doors I noticed that he'd left his phone, it was a brand new iphone 5 so I grabbed it and jogged after the guy. He was about halfway down the platform by the time I caught his attention and the train doors where closing. I told him he'd left his phone on the seat and handed it over.
I'd like to point out at this point I didn't expect him to drop to his knees and worship me like a golden god or even him to acknowledge I'd missed the train doors and was going to have to wait 45 minutes for another train. I just kind of expected a thanks or even a "I'm a moron for leaving it" kind of response.
However the guy just looked me up and down, snatched the phone looked at it turned it over a few times checking there was no damage. Then he gave me a look of disgust and turned to leave while mumbling "You best hadn't of dropped it."
This is when I kind of over reacted. I said without thinking "No need to thank me you asshole" and turned to walk away. The guy then turned back around and started having a go at me saying his phone was worth £600 and if it was damaged he'd "punch my teeth out".
I lost my temper and shoved the guy to the floor (I didn't punch him though) I flipped out and started shouting about how he could have just said thanks for returning his phone and he wouldn't look like such a bitch. But the guy just wouldn't shut up. He said he was going to sue me for assault and taking his phone!
This is the point I kind of went overboard, I started shouting "Sue me for what?! retuning your phone or you being an asshole?" He then tried to kick me in the legs and started trying to slap me so, and I'm kind of proud of this, I took the guys shoes and thew them over the track into a mashy field.
I didn't want to hit him back, he was about 5'4" and weighed about 140 I'm 6'1" and weigh about 180 but he was a short mess and I'm in quite good shape so there was no point beating up a chubby midget but I was so pissed off I wanted to either throw him under a train or choke him to death so I had to do something.
This guy was such an asshole he lost his shoes because he couldn't just say "Thanks for returning my phone".
But my point regardless of if you think I'm the asshole in this situation and I wouldn't blame you if you did, is what the fuck has happened to people!?
Why are they so bitter they can't say thank you or even smile!? Manners cost nothing and no one has them anymore!
Sorry for the rant and if you've read this far I've basically wasted a few minutes of your life. . . Sorry about that, but at least I was polite about it!